Book tip: Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl
Coaching gives meaning to other people's lives, which in turn gives meaning to the life of the coach himself.
In order to be effective as coaching, you just have to be one or two steps ahead (and I would say, either through experience or in the process of accompaniment, e.g. knowing what questions to ask to get to an answer together).
When we learn to take more responsibility for ourselves, we are automatically empowered to overcome any challenge that life throws our way.
- Self-concept: how we see ourselves.
- Self-worth: our intrinsic value, the value we place upon ourselves.
- Self-esteem: how confident we are of ourselves.
Authority comes from our life experiences.
You first have to become confident in yourself, before you can confidently help and coach other people.
The 'Victim' Drama Triangle
- The Rescuer
- The Persecutor
- The Victim
You and only you are responsible for your emotions/behavior/success. Avoid getting stuck as a Victim in the Drama Triangle. To avoid this, you need to become aware of yourself. You need to take responsibility for your own life.
The Seven Levels of Consciousness (and Self-Awareness) (from low to high)
- Victim
- Conflict
- Responsibility
- Concern
- Reconciliation
- Synthesis
- Non-Judgement